Friday, 15 March 2019

I feel so sad tonight.  I tried to reach out to a young woman with cancer who was being given a hard time on social media because she was angry.  Why the hell wouldn't she be angry?  But I think I messed it up and I feel badly.

And Donald tRump continues to spew his brand of hatred and bigotry and fear and others pick up and run with it and now a lot of people in New Zealand are dead.  And I want to tell Mr. tRump to stop.  Stop hating.  Stop sewing seeds of hate.  Stop lying.  Stop being a horrible human being but when I go on his Facebook page people leave comments about what a wonderful president he is and I feel sick to my stomach and I want to cry and cry and cry.

And I worry about the world and I worry about what we're all doing to each other.  And I wonder how you get to a place where you think it's okay to gun down innocent people, men, women and children, in a house of worship.  How do you end up with so much hate in your heart?

And did Donald tRump get his hatred from the same place?  And is it contagious?  Or are all human beings that horrible and we just pretend to be good?  Is it just a thin veneer that stops us from hurting and hating each other?


  1. I've had a physical pain in my chest for the past 24 hours. How on earth are we meant to wrap our heads around what's happening around us? I have no words to make you feel better - other than not being so hard on yourself for trying to help a young woman. We all do things with the best of intentions, but words are hard. Put simply, you are an incredible woman, a wonderful friend, and I am grateful to have you in my life. Sending strength, hugs, love and tissues. I still have a few left.

  2. I don't think humans are born to hate, their life experiences make them become this way. Although I do believe that some people are born mentally ill, and become psychopaths etc. I've often wondered why my mother was the way she was, was she born that way or did things happen to her to make her become abusive? Probably the latter.

  3. I know, Deb. I think what has me most concerned is it is just another day on this fucked up planet and I am growing numb to all the pain. Another day. Another atrocity. We are past the tipping point.

    I’m no help, I know. I think it helps to feel less alone.

  4. It is my belief that evil has always existed in the world. Is it getting worse? Maybe. Are certain leaders fostering hate when they have a huge forum to promote peace? Definitely. But I also think that our constant exposure to the news cycle has us marinating in bad news 24/7 and that is not healthy. In order not to go crazy depressed, I stay away from most social media and focus on thoughts like "you can't change the entire world but you can help the person next to you." And my favorite Mother Teresa quote "do little things with great love"

    I think you do that, everyday, and already make the world a much better place.

  5. I suppose all we can do is to share love and care with those around us. Social media is such a completely new and truly, if you think about it, artificial construct. Stay away from things like D. Trump's FB page. There will be no truth or love found there. Not really.
    I don't think that there are more evil people than ever. I just think that the ones who are among us have found a new voice. And of course, have access to weapons.
    So we must arm ourselves with even more kindness. Maybe?

  6. The world has gone mad. And yet in New Zealand, in the aftermath of such tragedy, decency and compassion reign. We would do well to take notes, even though I truly believe that the orange man and his minions aside, people's hearts are mostly good.

  7. What happened in NZ was horrific, but their response was amazing. They made sweeping changes right away. Why can't we? I despair for our country.