Monday, 2 September 2013
I am always in awe while in the mountains. Water falls everywhere, rushing downhill towards the sea. The very same sea that we scattered my parents ashes in only two weeks ago. It feels like the end of a chapter in my life. Both of my parents are now dead, my duty towards them fulfilled. And now?
Last week I walked beside a river and thought about my life. I am more than mid-way through it which brought to mind a book I had read, although not finished, awhile ago. "Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life" by James Hollis. I picked the book up a couple of nights ago and started reading it again, determined this time to finish it.
I just read a bit about midlife crisis.
There are reasons why these disturbances frequently manifest at what we typically consider "midlife." One has to have separated from the parents long enough to be in the world, to make choices, to see what works, what does not, and to experience the collapse, or at least erosion, of one's projections. By this age, the ego strength necessary for self-examination may have reached a level where it can reflect upon itself, critique itself, and risk altering choices, and thereby values as well...To engage with the summons of our souls is to step into the deepest ocean, uncertain whether we will be able to swim to some new, distant shore. And yet, until we have consented to swim beyond the familiar lights of the port left behind, we will never arrive at a newer shore. For some the entry is gradual; others are pushed suddenly into deep waters. ( Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life, James Hollis, Pg. 25)
I often wonder why it is that I am fifty years old and questioning everything I believe and think and do. Why did I do the things I did? Why did I believe what I did? Why didn't I question things before now?
It's time, once again, to start looking at myself.